Last chance!

“This is your last chance, my friend! Nothing is going to save you this time and there’s no more chances left then this one!”

That might be what you’d be thinking if you got a second chance, let’s say with your ex-girlfriend. Now I’m not saying that I’m getting back with MY ex-girlfriend, not yet anyway, but hear me out! :)

But what I am saying is that I’m getting a second chance with someone whom I’ve been with before. And I remember saying to myself, when I lost contact, damn I shouldn’t have let that one get away – If I get a second chance, I’ll really nail her!

Of course when I said this, I really did not believe in a second chance with her – So I could really say it with confidence without actually knowing how to get her back and/or “nail” her.

But now that I have this second chance and my last, I presume, it really puts me under enormous pressure. And with pressure comes anxiety and anxiety leads to uncomfortable situations and that causes everything else to go wrong. – We can now all agree on, that this isn’t an ideal state of mind to be approaching a second or a last chance nor women in general. The mindset I’m looking for is somewhat more relaxed, you might say!

So is what I’m saying is.... – Don’t take second chances?? NO!!!

You should take second chances along with, this is very important; along with all the other women you date! - You should take second chances, but with the same expectations you have when you meet a completely new woman. A mindset similar to the one you have when meeting new women. A mindset that says:

“There’s a tremendous amount of beautiful women out there, just waiting for me to come ask them out! – And when I approach a woman I only find out if she has good taste in men. – or in this case, if she still has bad taste!”

God luck with your second chances! :)