The words: “I just want you back for good!” – NOT GOOD!

Damage control, in dating terms, is fucking unbelievably hard. Very few manage to get pass this phase. But despite the frequently unsuccessful outcome, we still seem to be trying to get it right, AGAIN! I’m not saying that if anything goes wrong in your relationship, you should just forget about it and forget about the girl and move on. Surely you should try to talk your way thru it, together, if you really care about each other (I mean if you really love each other).

I think for most part, the reason to even try to “damage control” is because of pride.

“What ever I said, what ever I did, I didn’t mean it.. I just want you back for good!” –I’ve said it twice to her now and I’m still hoping it’ll work.

And with this attitude you easily get an obsession and that’s the point of no return. The above is really black and white, but generally it’s the same thing that’s going on when you try to call the girl who said no several times before. I know it’s tough because even the littlest smirk of interest keeps your hopes up. Maybe she’s even been with you once and now she doesn’t want you anymore.

Enough theory for now!

I’m seeing this girl who I’m really into. She’s funny, she’s smart and she’s really nice to talk to. In fact, I haven’t felt a connection that good with a girl before. We’ve been together about three times and we also tried to build a relationship, but failed. The thing is that every time we’re together, we break up almost immediately after. This happened three times. I’m feeling that I really wanna make it work, but she’s really pushing me back but only on a sexual level. I think I’ve encoded in her, that if we have sex I’ll loose interest in her and dump her. And I don’t blame her; I’ve done it THREE TIMES BEFORE. I didn’t necessarily dump her, but I did loose interest in her. (And I could explain why, but I won’t – that’s not the subject) My problem is that I’m really emotional about her now. I’ve had my best and my worst times with this broad. :) And it didn’t help when she recently said she loved me. (My first thought was: “Ooh my God I’ve really fucked this girl up, haven’t I?”)

- What I’m thinking about this girl is; “I’ve had my chance and it’s time to move on, even if she doesn’t think so. ( But trust me. It isn’t the first time I’ve tried)

Some things you cannot change. You can try but you should now when to stop. ….. For me, I think it’s time to stop. Emotionally, I don’t agree but I think it is best for me… So that quote is really great but be careful not to pick the wrong girl to sing it to.

“It’s a tough game and I’m trying to get used to it!